Why share our journey...

While embarking on our journey to motherhood I figured that now would be a great time to enter the world of blogging...If you know me (or us for that matter) you that I/we research anything and everything before we make any decision.  I have done research on everything from how to get pregnant, pregnancy for gay-mos, to how to prepare for upsets and so on.  I found many mom-bian blogs, but most of them were from women who were years older than me...and the blogs of the women (straight) closer to my age are all so different because they do not deal with the situations we will be facing.....this is one main reason I decided to start this blog.  Another reason is because it gives Elise and I a way to connect throughout our journey....another reason is to document what I'm going through so I can look back and see what its like...or someone going through the situation can see that they are not alone...giving another twenty-something mom-bian to be an idea of what to expect.

There is tons of research out there concerning pregnancy, pregnancy for lesbians, dealing with infertility, what to expect when trying IUI and other methods of getting pregnant...but what I couldn't find, what I worry about is how to keep Elise as involved as possible.  Yes, this will be OUR baby but she will not get to experience all of the same things that I do and I want to keep her as involved as possible...I want her to know exactly how things are going each step of the way even when we are separated by miles and miles due to our insane work schedules (me a college softball coach, and her an exercise physiologist).

We have decided that we are going to try and start our family the beginning of 2012...so the journey begins now...I am not sure what this will be like but I am prepared for the ups, the downs, the crying and the smiling...I am excited, nervous, happy and scared shitless!!! but I am ready to begin this journey with the greatest person I know...the woman I will spend the rest of my life with...the woman I dream of making a mommy.  The journey will not be easy but I hope this blog helps us get through the rough times and keeps my wife as involved in our journey as possible...if you are in our same situation, I wish you luck and hope we can help you somehow along your journey in knowing you are not alone....so here we go, hand in hand down the road leading to "Elise and Tat's Big Gayby Journey".....